Love…
If I were to approach the value love as such, a value, one we cherish o such an extent that we are willing to devote our life’s happiness to it, a value in which we believe so much that we are willing to put our lives in its hands, if I were to approach that rationally or in some eyes negatively, I’d have to say the entire concept is completely illogical.
Because if we were to approach the concept of love rationally, and I’d strip it sown to what it rationally seen is, It would be no more then a name for, or a validation of, the relationship between two people, which is basically formed by hormones and other biochemical reactions. It would seem that the only reason for our belief in love would indeed merely be to validate our relationships, give meaning to them and creating a sense of there being something other then what we can grasp with our minds or brains, and therefore idealising it.
What it would come down to is that the concept of love is an illusion.
Because for example, I could be civil to everybody, if I wished to be. To my mom, as well as to that guy across the street. However, my relationship with my mom is different to that of me and the guy across the street, in that my mom should, according to society and biology feel the need to provide and take care of me. Now we’d like to ascribe her need to do so to the concept of love, but if it indeed is love, then are animals capable of loving to? Animals take care of their young, they teach them how to live and so on. But in their case we call it instinct. So I ask you: Love, or simple equations and laws of physics and nature?
I could reproduce with any willing man, technically. With that guy across the street, or with the guy I call mine. However, my relationship with the man I know and call mine is different to that of me and the guy across the street in that I know and trust the guy I call mine, because he has proven to be worthy of my trust through trial. But honestly, the guy across the guy across the street could be a trustworthy person too, and he could prove he was if given the opportunity. The real difference is this, me and the man I call mine have, as we like to say, ‘clicked’. Which means as much as that our pheromones connected, and worked well together. Is that love, or just a simple equation of laws of physics and nature?
Animals select their mates too, by body odour and lots of other biological markings of each individual animal. So do they love too?
If I’d still be approaching this rationally, I’d say that this Illusion of love is present but without any real use or necessity. Because well, we know all this.
As I stated before, this view on, or approach to love would however be considered quite negative by your average person or romantic. And considering the fact that I see myself as at least one of both, I would have to say that I highly disagree with this rather organic , “rational” approach to our concept of love, which is based solely on biology and in now way explores our mind and that what makes us humans, our ability to show, have and feel emotions in different degrees. Because of this our value of what was prior referred to as the illusion of love can’t be summarised and reduced to a simple biological equation. True, animals groom their young, but in a lot of cases they wouldn’t die for them , if they probably would die trying to save them. Humans do. True animals select partners, but they wouldn’t give their life for them, or take longer then the mating season to find one. Humans would.
Perhaps animals are the rational ones in this case, and we aren’t. But it’s not because we don’t want to be, it’s because we can’t be, we’re incapable. Love overcomes our ratio, not because we want it to , or let it, but because it just does.
Love is what drives us. We aren’t trying to validate her, she is part of us, And that’s the truth. And really , the obvious truth needs no defence of any kind.
So…Let’s celebrate love!
