When it’s right,

I guess it’s just right…

Usually I hate couples.
Not old and married couples. Those couples usually either fall out of love and stay together out of habit and say : “we’re like brother and sister nowadays”, or they actually stay in love and keep surprising each other with little and big things to keep the fire burning.
I prefer the latter, but the first usually also doesn’t get up in my face to bother me, so I can live with them too.

I hate the young couples, couples my age. The first few weeks are fine, and ok. They’re all in love and stuff and kissy, kissy and lovey dovey. And even though some people overdo it, I can deal with that, cause happy people are a good thing. But after that, I usually just can’t stand them. Cause usually those couples are awfully disturbed. One is always bossing around the other, and if not they just stay together because of the pleasure they get out of it if you know what I mean. They usually hardly discuss things, and I mean real things, things that matter. They just leave issues unresolved and kiss and make up as if that would make the issues go away. They complain to everybody but their partners about what stupid things their partners do and how much they can’t stand it. And really there’s usually a complete lack of mutual understanding, respect and intense and honest love.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not such a romantic that I think functional couples discuss every little detail and share their feelings and sing kumbaya every single day. I know they don’t, but is it really weird to expect something even slightly along those lines??

Never mind that question, I’ve already got the answer.

There are many couples I really can’t stand, and which I therefore don’t envy. And there are some couples, two to be exact, which I can’t envy, because they’re just right, they just fit. Or at least that’s what it seems like. In these two relationships when there’s a dispute, it gets settled behind closed doors, both people are respected and treated as thinking and feeling human beings, nobody seems whooped by the other. In these relationships problems are discussed and laughed about when solved. Also I’m pretty sure they do the kiss and make up thing, but only after the matter has been solved.

Maybe I’ve got it wrong, maybe they don’t do all this, maybe they’re just like the rest of them. Maybe they don’t discuss things, and maybe one of them has got the other one whooped. I don’t know, but these couples just fit, they’re just right. They’re an example to the rest of us. And really I’m happy to have them as my role models:). And really I hate to be gushing about them, but I just had to write it off… Sorry for bothering;)